eUnharmony

Within many of the social circles that I tread, a common and typical theme that comes up are words and phrases like “what does it mean to date?” “what are women seeking?” “what are men seeking?” This truly makes sense since the majority of our community is single. Most would agree it is by human nature that we seek a companion. But the more I think about it, this process must differ from person to person. Some tend to be the type that just can’t be out of a relationship, others are so independent that they are not comfortable in them, and then there is a group that just is in limbo. What is that other group?

We live in a society where value on relationships has been watered down. We feel that we need to find the right person by taking on the grueling process and expense of what we call dating. Does this always have to be so difficult? I think not. Sometimes I wonder though if we as Christians fall into the same trap that the secular dating world does. And heck, what’s the difference? Besides the physical intimacy and sex of course. I mean, unfortunately when people can’t find the results they seek, they tend to go with what others say as fact. Frankly, what I feel, and it’s all just my opinion, is that we depend too much on what these Christians authors like “Ludy” and “Harris” write about relationships. Don’t get me wrong, I truly feel there are some points that others make that are valid and wise. But crap, why don’t we go out on a limb and take a chance on what our gut is saying?

Some friends of mine have recently tried out some online dating services. The more I think about it makes me wonder. God put us on this planet and has blessed man with woman and vice versa. God provided for man. Where do we draw the line to where we seek out who God has planned for us individually, and letting God work this person into our lives?

So I wonder, this limbo I mentioned before. It may sound strange, but how true could it be? Do we not engage in relationships because we are scared they will succeed? Most would say they fear failure, but have you every feared success? I know i’ve thought about it and I guess others may too, who knows? But to succeed in a relationship that wasn’t the person God planned for you. Is this possible? A successful loving relationship and not be in God’s plan? I ponder…

I write this mostly on an entertainment value, but I am curious what others may think. Can we be so eager about getting into a relationship that we walk past the true one?Is there such a thing? Food for thought!